Growing Your Marriage

Why Won’t My Spouse Do the Dishes?

Rev. Travis Jamieson

Do you and your spouse struggle with fairly dividing the chores in your household? Consider how you can create a more peaceful plan for your family.

When Your Spouse Won't Pull Their Weight In Marriage

Keren Kanyago

Do you struggle with a spouse who is not pulling their weight in the relationship? Communicate your concerns and choose accountability for your marriage.

What If I No Longer Find My Spouse Attractive?

Keren Kanyago

Are your feelings for your spouse changing? Consider what God has to say about physical attraction and honoring the commitments that you have made.

Listening Reflectively: How to Listen Well

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

Are you struggling to listen well to one another? You can improve your listening skills by learning to reflect back the emotions being expressed.

Listening Deflectively: How Not to Listen

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

Does your relationship lack healthy communication? Evaluate your listening habits to move past deflective listening habits to listen well to one another.

Fences and In-Laws

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

Is your marriage in need of some protective boundaries? Follow God's design for placing healthy boundaries to care for your marriage relationship.

6 Magic Questions to Improve Your Marriage

Rev. Deb Koster

Looking for ways to invest in your marriage? Begin asking these six essential questions to bridge the divide and bring healing to your relationships.

Why Pastors Have Affairs: Sacred Boundaries and Sexual Abuse

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

Why do pastors have affairs? Explore the intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual doors of intimacy you open and close to safeguard your marriage.

Learning to Assert Yourself and Use Your Voice

Joella Ranaivoson

Do you struggle with using your voice assertively? Consider the importance of using your God-given voice in a loving way to care for yourself and others.

Four Gateways to Intimacy

Rev. Deb Koster

Do you know the different types of intimacy? Learn about various types of intimacy and how to incorporate these practices to create healthy relationships.

Five Ways to Handle Unmet Expectations

Keren Kanyago

Is your spouse failing to meet your expectations? Consider these five steps for getting your unrealistic expectations reset and your actual needs met.

Sex is God’s Idea: Sexuality is Part of God’s Perfect Plan

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

Our culture has a very distorted view of sexuality. Discover God's design for sexuality and learn the importance of a vital sex life for a great marriage.
Date Title Author Topics
March 17, 2024 Why Won’t My Spouse Do the Dishes? Rev. Travis Jamieson Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
March 6, 2024 When Your Spouse Won't Pull Their Weight In Marriage Keren Kanyago Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
March 3, 2024 What If I No Longer Find My Spouse Attractive? Keren Kanyago Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
February 28, 2024 Listening Reflectively: How to Listen Well Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication
February 25, 2024 Listening Deflectively: How Not to Listen Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication
February 21, 2024 Fences and In-Laws Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
February 14, 2024 6 Magic Questions to Improve Your Marriage Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis
November 1, 2023 Why Pastors Have Affairs: Sacred Boundaries and Sexual Abuse Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Sex & Dating, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis, Sex & Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Sexuality, Sex & Dating, Sex & Marriage, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
October 22, 2023 Learning to Assert Yourself and Use Your Voice Joella Ranaivoson Dating, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication
October 18, 2023 Four Gateways to Intimacy Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
August 9, 2023 Five Ways to Handle Unmet Expectations Keren Kanyago Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
July 23, 2023 Sex is God’s Idea: Sexuality is Part of God’s Perfect Plan Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
June 21, 2023 Weathering the Storms of Life as A Couple Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
June 7, 2023 A God Glorifying Marriage Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
June 4, 2023 Six Steps for Couples Who Have Drifted Apart Keren Kanyago Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis
May 28, 2023 Why You Need Alone Time in Your Marriage Keren Kanyago Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
May 14, 2023 What Does Your Love Life Need? Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
February 15, 2023 Understanding and Help For The Sexless Marriage Dr. Robert Ritzema Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
December 21, 2022 What it Means to Love One Another Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Dating Well, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
November 9, 2022 Marriage Boundaries: Tending Our Fences and Opening Our Gates Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, In-Law Relationships
November 6, 2022 Setting Limits: How Can Boundaries Help My Family? Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
October 19, 2022 Advice for Conflict Management in Marriage Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
October 16, 2022 The Wisdom of Seeking Counsel Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
September 14, 2022 Preventative Maintenance For Your Marriage Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
September 11, 2022 Magic Words to Improve Your Relationships Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Teens
April 27, 2022 Building an Intimate Marriage Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
April 24, 2022 What is Marriage? Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage
March 13, 2022 Why Can't My Spouse Recognize My Needs? Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
February 16, 2022 Cultivating Invitational Love Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
December 15, 2021 8 Keys to Living a Joyful Life Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
December 1, 2021 Have Hope For Your Marriage Dr. Robert Ritzema Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
November 17, 2021 When the Boat Rocks: Advice for Newlyweds Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
November 10, 2021 How to Improve Your Sex Life Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
November 3, 2021 What is the Purpose of Marriage? Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage
October 31, 2021 Living in an Imperfect Marriage Kim Sullivan Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
May 9, 2021 How to Date When You Can’t Go Out Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
March 31, 2021 What does Submission in Marriage Look Like? Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
February 10, 2021 Do I Matter in This Marriage? Rev. Daniel Zylstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
November 29, 2020 Spiraling Into Self-Pity Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
October 11, 2020 How Unmet Childhood Needs Shape Your Life Linda Ostlund, MA, LCPC Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication
September 9, 2020 The Benefits of Praying Together Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy
September 6, 2020 Praying for Your Spouse Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy
July 22, 2020 One Sided Marriage Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
July 19, 2020 Should We Seek Counseling? Restore Your Marriage Now! Steve Augustus Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
July 5, 2020 Live Your Own Life - Letting Go of Codependency Charlene Brouwer, MA, LAMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
July 1, 2020 Building a Partnership in Your Marriage Leah Travis, MS, LMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
March 11, 2020 Love Your Spouse: Body and Soul Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
March 8, 2020 Tips for Caring for Your Marriage After Children Arrive Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Parenting, New Parents, Parenting Kids
February 19, 2020 Marriage 101: Learning to Communicate Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication
September 29, 2019 What Makes a Good Marriage? Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage
September 11, 2019 Marital Therapy…Alone? When a Spouse Refuses Counseling Debi Mitchell, MS, LMFT Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
June 18, 2019 What to Expect in Couples Counseling Jennie Sawye Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
December 2, 2018 Getting Lost Financially and Planning a Way Out Rev. Michael VanderLaan Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
October 24, 2018 Communication Basics Kathy Krentkowski, MA, LCPC, LMHC Dating, Dating Well, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
October 3, 2018 Listening To Your Spouse Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication
September 23, 2018 Continuing the Date Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #8 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #9 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Summary Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 8, 2018 Build friendship into your marriage Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
August 1, 2018 Letting Go and Sticking Together Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage
June 28, 2018 Rebuilding After Separation Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
June 25, 2018 What Older Adults Can Teach Us About Relationships Dr. Robert Ritzema Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
May 14, 2018 Your Marriage: Covenant, or Contract? Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
February 22, 2018 Striving to Be One Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
October 2, 2017 How are Assumptions Impacting Your Marriage? Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
June 28, 2017 Summer Reading to Grow Your Marriage Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
June 5, 2017 Creating a Gracious Marriage Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
February 27, 2017 Avoiding Gray Divorce: Marriage Risk After 50 Dr. Robert Ritzema Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
February 16, 2017 Marriage Conflict: Why Do We Fight? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
November 10, 2016 Dwelling in God's Word Together Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy
November 3, 2016 Foster Thankfulness in Your Marriage Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
October 27, 2016 Let the Peace of Christ Rule Your Marriage Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
October 20, 2016 Dressing for Marriage: A Morning Ritual Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
October 13, 2016 Loving God More Than Your Spouse Rev. Jason Ruis Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage
January 18, 2016 Is Your Relationship Wi-Fi Compatible? Angie Cerniglia, AMFT, LPC Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
June 22, 2015 Work on Creating a Good and Godly Marriage Debi Mitchell, MS, LMFT Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
May 3, 2015 When is Divorce OK? Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Single Again, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage
February 12, 2015 Demonstrating God's Love: Caring For Your Spouse Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Being Grandparents, Spirituality, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
January 12, 2015 Self-Care in Balancing Career and Family Responsibilities Evie DavyRomano, MS, LMFTA Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Single Parenting, Blended Families, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
June 19, 2014 8 Tips for Caring for Your Marriage Doug Van Til, MSW, LCSW Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Sex & Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
June 4, 2014 Can anything good come from divorce? Christopher Hunt Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
May 8, 2014 Becoming Mrs. Bennett Kim Sullivan Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Parenting, Parenting Adults
November 18, 2013 Marriage Questionnaires: Test Taking or Taking Stock? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis
October 4, 2010 What Forgiveness is Not Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 27, 2009 Two Types of Marriage? Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage

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