Rev. Deb Koster

Deb Koster is a producer, writer, and speaker for Family Fire. She is also an Innkeeper at The Parsonage Inn in Grand Rapids, MI where she leads marriage retreat on weekends. After over 20 years as a Registered Nurse, she completed a Master of Divinity degree and was ordained as a pastor in the Christian Reformed Church. Deb and her husband Steven enjoy doing ministry together and they are the parents of three awesome young adults.

Articles by Rev. Deb Koster

Date Title Topics
June 9, 2024 How to Stop Being a Victim Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
June 6, 2024 Helping Teens Cope with Grief Parenting, Parenting Teens, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
June 2, 2024 Helping Our Children to Understand Baptism Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Nurturing
May 8, 2024 Navigating Disrespect Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 31, 2024 Grieving Through Graveside Conversations Spirituality, Grief & Loss
February 14, 2024 6 Magic Questions to Improve Your Marriage Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis
February 11, 2024 Are Marriages 50/50 Relationships? Dating, Dating Well, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
January 17, 2024 A Christian Response to Bad Behavior Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
December 20, 2023 I Pray on Christmas Spirituality, Grief & Loss
December 3, 2023 Being Changed by Grandparenting Grandparenting, Being Grandparents
November 8, 2023 Our Road Map Through the Storm Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
October 18, 2023 Four Gateways to Intimacy Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
August 30, 2023 Embracing the Gift of God's Word Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Intimacy
August 13, 2023 Finding Time for Spiritual Growth Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy
July 19, 2023 Scriptural Truths for Parents Parenting, New Parents, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
July 12, 2023 Navigating Difficult Relationships Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
July 9, 2023 Living the Beatitudes in our Families Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Intimacy
June 25, 2023 Searching for God in the Waiting Spirituality, Grief & Loss
April 26, 2023 When Life Feels Overwhelming Spirituality, Grief & Loss
April 19, 2023 Multi-Generational Mentoring Grandparenting, Being Grandparents, Mentoring Faith
April 12, 2023 Resurrection Power for Relationships Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
March 29, 2023 Forgiving God Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
March 26, 2023 Forgiving the Villains Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
March 22, 2023 What is My Role as a Grandparent? Grandparenting, Being Grandparents, Mentoring Faith
March 8, 2023 A Christian Response to Quiet Quitting Dating, Living Single
March 1, 2023 How should Christians engage the arts? Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship
February 26, 2023 Blessing our Family with Story Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
February 1, 2023 Exploring Spiritual Disciplines Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
January 18, 2023 Building Faith Around God's Table Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
January 1, 2023 Family Blessings from the Lord's Prayer Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
December 28, 2022 Teaching our Children How to Respond to the Voice of God Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
December 21, 2022 What it Means to Love One Another Dating, Dating Well, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
December 7, 2022 Encountering the Prince of Peace Parenting, Holiday Celebrations, Grandparenting, Family Holidays, Spirituality
November 20, 2022 The Value of Praying the Scriptures Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
November 13, 2022 Living into the Authority God Established for Families Parenting, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens, Discipline
November 2, 2022 How to Make the Decision to Retire Grandparenting
September 7, 2022 Whose Homework is This? Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing
September 4, 2022 Communicating with College Kids From a Distance Parenting, Parenting Teens, Parenting Adults
August 17, 2022 Starting Marriage With Good Habits Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Sex & Marriage
August 10, 2022 17 Things Spiritually Healthy People Don’t Do Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
August 7, 2022 ​Why Worship? Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
July 27, 2022 Single Again Dating, Single Again, Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage
July 20, 2022 Time Management with Jesus: Don't Rush Past the Blessings Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing
July 13, 2022 God, Help Me Protect My Kids! Parenting, New Parents, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens
July 6, 2022 Learning How to Practice Empathy Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
July 3, 2022 Cultivating Relationships with Stepchildren Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Blended Families
June 22, 2022 How physical should a dating relationship be? Dating, Dating Well, Sex & Dating, Sexuality, Sex & Dating
June 8, 2022 How Do I Manage Frustration? Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
May 1, 2022 Balancing the Mother Load Parenting, New Parents, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens
April 27, 2022 Building an Intimate Marriage Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
April 19, 2022 Kingdom Building Practices of the Early Church Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
April 3, 2022 Learning the Value of Community Spirituality
March 23, 2022 Why is Communication So Difficult? Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 20, 2022 Gentle Answers to Defuse Arguments Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
February 16, 2022 Cultivating Invitational Love Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Marriage
February 2, 2022 When Parents Fail Us Parenting, Parenting Kids, Parenting Adults
January 2, 2022 Help! My Procrastination is Hurting My Relationships Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
December 29, 2021 I Know That My Redeemer Lives Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Intimacy
December 15, 2021 8 Keys to Living a Joyful Life Marriage, Growing Your Marriage
November 17, 2021 When the Boat Rocks: Advice for Newlyweds Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
November 7, 2021 Biblical Guidelines for Sexually Healthy Relationships Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Marriage Preparation, Sex & Dating, Marriage, Sex & Marriage, Sexuality, Sex & Dating, Sex & Marriage
November 3, 2021 What is the Purpose of Marriage? Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Sex & Marriage
September 1, 2021 Being Teachable: Characteristics of Un-teachable Behavior Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
August 29, 2021 Being Teachable: Developing a Teachable Spirit Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
August 18, 2021 Nine Conversations to Have With Your College-Bound child. Parenting, Parenting Teens
July 21, 2021 The Romans 12 Guide to Dealing with Difficult People Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
June 23, 2021 Dating Advice for Young Adults Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict
May 30, 2021 Learning to Care for God's World Parenting, Parenting Kids, Family Fun
May 19, 2021 Transforming Your Emotions Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
May 12, 2021 Prayers for New Parents Parenting, New Parents
April 25, 2021 Establishing Discipline in the Blended Family Home Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Blended Families, Discipline
April 21, 2021 When God Seems Silent Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
April 11, 2021 Coping with Betrayal Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
March 14, 2021 How Do I Raise My Child to Embrace Faith? Parenting, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Intimacy, Mentoring Faith
February 28, 2021 Laying My Burdens Down Spirituality, Grief & Loss
February 24, 2021 How to Cultivate Family Worship Time Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
January 31, 2021 How to Care for Hurting People: Showing Empathy Spirituality, Grief & Loss
January 6, 2021 Faith Lessons From the Prayers of the Black Church Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Intimacy
December 6, 2020 Preparing for Christmas in a Pandemic Grandparenting, Family Holidays, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
September 13, 2020 Why Our Words Matter Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Discipline, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
August 30, 2020 Crossing Barriers and Learning to Love My Neighbor Spirituality, Grief & Loss
August 12, 2020 Be the Hero for your Family Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing
August 9, 2020 Who Am I Dating? Discover Their Secret Identity Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation
July 29, 2020 Navigating Life's Disappointments Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
July 22, 2020 One Sided Marriage Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
June 28, 2020 Cultivating a Virtue: Lord Give Me Patience! Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
June 17, 2020 Placing God First Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing
June 10, 2020 The Power of Praying for One Another Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
May 24, 2020 Scripture's Promises in Tough Times Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Grief & Loss
May 20, 2020 Riding the Emotional Roller Coaster Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
May 13, 2020 Sharing Feelings Marriage, Communication
May 6, 2020 Learning How to Share Parenting, Parenting Kids
April 29, 2020 Listening for God Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
April 5, 2020 When life feels overwhelming Spirituality, Grief & Loss
March 15, 2020 Is My Marriage Salvageable? Recognizing Emotional Abuse Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
March 13, 2020 Talking to Kids about the Coronavirus Parenting
February 5, 2020 What Could You Gain from Counseling? Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
November 10, 2019 Learning to Practice Self-Care Spirituality, Grief & Loss
November 6, 2019 While You Wait for Your Marriage to be Healed Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
September 3, 2019 Sharing our Brokenness Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Mentoring Faith
August 14, 2019 In-Law Lessons from Moses Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Being Grandparents, Boundaries & Conflict
July 14, 2019 Rules for Children Online Parenting, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens, Kids & Technology
July 7, 2019 Why Kids Need to Friend Their Parents Online Parenting, Parenting Teens, Kids & Technology
June 12, 2019 Accepting Adult Kids, Being Adult Kids Parenting, Parenting Kids
May 19, 2019 Parenting Avengers: Endgame Style Parenting, Kids & Technology, Family Fun
May 8, 2019 Celebrating Singleness: Dating is Not a Goal Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Marriage Preparation, Sex & Dating
May 5, 2019 My Beautiful Girl: Discovering a Biblical View of Beauty Dating, Living Single, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens
April 24, 2019 Finding Your Identity Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
April 10, 2019 Why is it So Difficult to Draw Boundaries With Parents? Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
March 27, 2019 Finding God in the Interruptions Parenting, Parenting Kids
March 10, 2019 Invest in Your Marriage (It's Bigger than the Wedding) Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds
January 23, 2019 Establishing Justice at Home Parenting, Discipline
January 20, 2019 Discipline vs. Punishment: Why One Is Better Than the Other Parenting, Parenting Kids, Discipline
January 16, 2019 To Yell or not to Yell Parenting, Parenting Kids, Discipline
January 13, 2019 Should I Spank my Child? Parenting, Parenting Kids, Discipline
December 19, 2018 Put Down Your Cellphone Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
October 31, 2018 Challenging the Myths of Talking to Your Kids About Sex Parenting, Sex & Parenting, Sexuality, Sex & Parenting
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #7 Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #6 Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #5 Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #4 Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #3 Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #2 Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
July 22, 2018 Guilt-Based Parenting Parenting, Parenting Kids, Single Parenting, Blended Families
June 28, 2018 Rebuilding After Separation Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
May 24, 2018 Follow God's Call to Mentor Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Mentoring Faith
March 29, 2018 Caring for One Another Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
September 21, 2017 When to End a Marriage Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
September 18, 2017 When to Fight for Your Marriage Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
September 7, 2017 5 Ways You Give the Devil a Foothold in Your Life Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
April 13, 2017 The Gift of Sacrifice Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
March 16, 2017 Talking to Kids about Sex Parenting, Parenting Kids, Sex & Parenting, Sexuality, Sex & Parenting
March 6, 2017 Is Anger a Sin? Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
February 16, 2017 Marriage Conflict: Why Do We Fight? Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
January 23, 2017 Guidance for Making Difficult Decisions Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
November 14, 2016 Follow Me as I Follow Christ Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing, Grief & Loss
November 7, 2016 Growing in Faith: Moving from Head to Heart Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
October 10, 2016 Learning to Live Through Loss Spirituality, Grief & Loss
October 6, 2016 Crossing Bridges Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
September 5, 2016 Become an Agent of Justice Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
June 27, 2016 Saving Your Sanity This Summer Parenting, Family Fun
February 22, 2016 Remarriage: How Can I Be Sure I Am Ready? Dating, Marriage Preparation, Single Again, Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Blended Families
December 21, 2015 Love Traveled at Christmas. Parenting, Holiday Celebrations, Grandparenting, Family Holidays, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
November 23, 2015 Sharing Thanksgiving Around the Table Parenting, Holiday Celebrations, Grandparenting, Family Holidays, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship
September 7, 2015 Navigating an Unequally Yoked Marriage Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
August 24, 2015 Uprooting Sinfulness: Seven Deadly Sins Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
March 9, 2015 Talking to Kids About Sex: Freaking Out Over the Sex Talk Parenting, Parenting Kids, Sex & Parenting, Sexuality, Sex & Parenting
March 5, 2015 How Can I Establish Discipline in My Home? Parenting, New Parents, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Blended Families, Spiritual Nurturing
March 2, 2015 Marveling at God’s World Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Family Fun, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Family Devotions & Worship, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
February 23, 2015 Why should I forgive? Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
February 12, 2015 Demonstrating God's Love: Caring For Your Spouse Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Being Grandparents, Spirituality, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
October 11, 2014 Making Memories: Seasonal Traditions Parenting, Family Fun, Holiday Celebrations
October 8, 2014 Should I let my child quit? Parenting, Parenting Kids, Parenting Teens
April 2, 2014 The Power of Apology Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 27, 2014 To What Voices Will You Listen? Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
February 25, 2014 Daughter, You Are God's Warrior Princess Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing
November 18, 2013 Marriage Questionnaires: Test Taking or Taking Stock? Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis
September 19, 2013 Leaving a Spiritual Legacy: The Story of Epaphras Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Mentoring Faith
August 26, 2013 Helping Your marriage navigate the death of a child Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
October 11, 2010 What Forgiveness Is Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Blended Families, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 4, 2010 What Forgiveness is Not Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
May 14, 2007 Everyday Evangelism Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Mentoring Faith
April 3, 2007 New Parents! Parenting, New Parents, Parenting Kids
December 22, 2006 Fighting Fair Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict

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