Challenges & Conflict

Forgiving the Villains

Rev. Deb Koster

Have you been hurt in ways that feel unforgivable? Discover how you can free yourself from anger and make a fresh start free of the villains in your life.

Marriage Boundaries: Tending Our Fences and Opening Our Gates

Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra

Marriages benefit from having healthy boundaries. Consider this biblical wisdom for knowing when fences should be built and when gates should be opened.

Expressing Emotions

Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra

Do you struggle to express your emotions in constructive ways? Learn how you can follow the example of Jesus and steward your emotions in healthy ways.

Cohabitation: Should Christians Live Together Before Marriage?

Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra

Living together before marriage is common in our culture, but is it a good idea? Discover Biblical wisdom for making the best choice for your relationship.

Handling Conflict Biblically and Constructively: Encouraging articles from Family Fire

Christopher Hunt

These articles from Family Fire contributors offer perspectives in dealing with conflicts in our relationships constructively and biblically.

When a Friendship Ends

Joella Ranaivoson

How should you navigate the end of a friendship? Consider the role that friendships play in our lives and learn how to end a relationship with grace.

Why is Communication So Difficult?

Rev. Deb Koster

Do you struggle with communication? Consider these common obstacles to communication to help improve your listening and speaking for healthy communication.

Gentle Answers to Defuse Arguments

Rev. Deb Koster

Do you find yourself getting pulled into debates and arguments? Consider how you can defuse arguments by choosing a grace based response to confrontation.

Supporting Single Friends

Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW

Are you wondering how to care well for your single friends? Consider how you can tune into their needs and support them as they follow God's leading.

How can I get my boyfriend to share with me emotionally?

Joella Ranaivoson

Looking for wisdom to build emotional connection in your dating relationships? Consider how you can foster emotional connection and create deeper intimacy.

Lessons from a Breakup

Joella Ranaivoson

Do know someone who is trying to make sense of a difficult breakup? Consider the valuable lessons that can be learned from navigating a breakup.

What if I Don't Like My Boyfriend's Family?

Joella Ranaivoson

Do you dislike your boyfriend's family? Engage the situation with honesty and grace to discern together if there is a way forward for your relationship.
Date Title Author Topics
March 26, 2023 Forgiving the Villains Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
November 9, 2022 Marriage Boundaries: Tending Our Fences and Opening Our Gates Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, In-Law Relationships
October 2, 2022 Expressing Emotions Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis
September 21, 2022 Cohabitation: Should Christians Live Together Before Marriage? Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Sex & Dating
September 13, 2022 Handling Conflict Biblically and Constructively: Encouraging articles from Family Fire Christopher Hunt Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
May 15, 2022 When a Friendship Ends Joella Ranaivoson Dating, Living Single, Challenges & Conflict
March 23, 2022 Why is Communication So Difficult? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 20, 2022 Gentle Answers to Defuse Arguments Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 6, 2022 Supporting Single Friends Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Dating, Living Single, Challenges & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
February 13, 2022 How can I get my boyfriend to share with me emotionally? Joella Ranaivoson Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict
January 19, 2022 Lessons from a Breakup Joella Ranaivoson Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict
November 14, 2021 What if I Don't Like My Boyfriend's Family? Joella Ranaivoson Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation
October 20, 2021 The Art & Grit of Granting Forgiveness Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 17, 2021 How Do I Forgive: Write a Letter of Lament and Forgiveness Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
September 1, 2021 Being Teachable: Characteristics of Un-teachable Behavior Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
August 29, 2021 Being Teachable: Developing a Teachable Spirit Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
July 21, 2021 The Romans 12 Guide to Dealing with Difficult People Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
June 23, 2021 Dating Advice for Young Adults Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict
June 20, 2021 How to End a Dating Relationship: Clear Is Kind Joella Ranaivoson Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Single Again
June 6, 2021 How to Move Forward After Messing Up Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
February 21, 2021 Signs Your Relationship has Become Unhealthy Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
November 11, 2020 How Do I Forgive Lynne Scherschel, MS, LMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 13, 2020 Why Our Words Matter Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Parenting, Spiritual Nurturing, Discipline, Grandparenting, Mentoring Faith, Spirituality, Devotions for Couples, Spiritual Nurturing, Mentoring Faith
August 12, 2020 Be the Hero for your Family Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Spiritual Nurturing
August 9, 2020 Who Am I Dating? Discover Their Secret Identity Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Living Single, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation
July 8, 2020 Practicing Assertive Communication Jessica Parks, MSW, LCSW Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
July 5, 2020 Live Your Own Life - Letting Go of Codependency Charlene Brouwer, MA, LAMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
July 1, 2020 Building a Partnership in Your Marriage Leah Travis, MS, LMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
April 22, 2020 Becoming Your Best Self: Using The Enneagram to Discern Your Gifting Kathy Krentkowski, MA, LCPC, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict
March 18, 2020 Who Am I? Moving Past Co-dependency Kim Pronoitis, MA, LCPC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
February 16, 2020 Moving Past Conflict to Find Unity Debi Mitchell, MS, LMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
February 5, 2020 What Could You Gain from Counseling? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
January 5, 2020 Why Am I Angry? Kathy Krentkowski, MA, LCPC, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
August 25, 2019 A Biblical Guide to Conflict Resolution Aneece Alicea, MA, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
June 18, 2019 What to Expect in Couples Counseling Jennie Sawye Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage
June 9, 2019 Handling Conflict Constructively Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 20, 2019 Reconciling our Conflict with Reconciliation Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #8 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #9 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #6 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #7 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
September 5, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #10 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #1 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Summary Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #4 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #5 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #3 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #2 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 19, 2018 Loving the Enemy Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
April 3, 2017 Guidelines for Communicating in Dating Relationships Kaitlin Lubben Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict
February 16, 2017 Marriage Conflict: Why Do We Fight? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
January 12, 2017 A Christian Response to Bad Behavior Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 6, 2016 Crossing Bridges Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
February 23, 2015 Why should I forgive? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
October 30, 2014 Finding Spiritual Renewal in the 12 Steps Kathy Konrath, LCPC, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
September 4, 2014 Attitude Adjustments from the Beatitudes Kim Sullivan Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Devotions for Couples
April 9, 2014 Forgiving One Another Rev. Leonard Vander Zee Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
April 2, 2014 The Power of Apology Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 11, 2010 What Forgiveness Is Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Blended Families, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 4, 2010 What Forgiveness is Not Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
December 22, 2006 Fighting Fair Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict

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