Boundaries & Conflict

Forgiving the Villains

Rev. Deb Koster

Have you been hurt in ways that feel unforgivable? Discover how you can free yourself from anger and make a fresh start free of the villains in your life.

Setting Limits: How Can Boundaries Help My Family?

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

Struggle with setting limits in your family? Discover the blessing of boundaries with Biblical wisdom to establish limits that guide healthy relationships.

Handling Conflict Biblically and Constructively: Encouraging articles from Family Fire

Christopher Hunt

These articles from Family Fire contributors offer perspectives in dealing with conflicts in our relationships constructively and biblically.

Retirement as Celebration

Jolene DeHeer

Retirement can bring with it lots of anxious emotions. Tune your heart to see where God is leading so you can celebrate the blessings of this season.

How Do I Leave My Parents?

Dr. Robert Ritzema

Having difficulty separating yourself from your parents? Check out this Biblical wisdom on creating healthy relationships through granting independence.

Why is Communication So Difficult?

Rev. Deb Koster

Do you struggle with communication? Consider these common obstacles to communication to help improve your listening and speaking for healthy communication.

Gentle Answers to Defuse Arguments

Rev. Deb Koster

Do you find yourself getting pulled into debates and arguments? Consider how you can defuse arguments by choosing a grace based response to confrontation.

How to Love Well at Christmas

Rev. Joel Vande Werken

Does your Christmas feel like it is more about stress than love? Let the wisdom from Romans 12 guide your family to love more like Jesus desires for us.

The Art & Grit of Granting Forgiveness

Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra

Is your relationship struggling? Discover the blessing of forgiveness to restore peace and joy as well as cultivating a deeper intimacy with one another.

How Do I Forgive: Write a Letter of Lament and Forgiveness

Rev. Dr. Steven Koster

When we find it difficult to forgive someone, putting thoughts onto paper can help. Writing a letter to the person who wronged you can help you forgive.

Help, My Child is Keeping Me From My Grandchildren!

Joella Ranaivoson

How do you deal with children who keep you from having a relationship with your grandchildren? How can we heal the past to connect with my grandkids?

Being Teachable: Characteristics of Un-teachable Behavior

Rev. Deb Koster

Struggling with an unteachable attitude? Consider the characteristics of an unteachable spirit and find Biblical wisdom to guide you to a teachable heart.
Date Title Author Topics
March 26, 2023 Forgiving the Villains Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
November 6, 2022 Setting Limits: How Can Boundaries Help My Family? Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Marriage Preparation, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
September 13, 2022 Handling Conflict Biblically and Constructively: Encouraging articles from Family Fire Christopher Hunt Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
July 31, 2022 Retirement as Celebration Jolene DeHeer Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
May 18, 2022 How Do I Leave My Parents? Dr. Robert Ritzema Dating, Living Single, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 23, 2022 Why is Communication So Difficult? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
March 20, 2022 Gentle Answers to Defuse Arguments Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
December 22, 2021 How to Love Well at Christmas Rev. Joel Vande Werken Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Holiday Celebrations, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict, Family Holidays
October 20, 2021 The Art & Grit of Granting Forgiveness Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 17, 2021 How Do I Forgive: Write a Letter of Lament and Forgiveness Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
September 26, 2021 Help, My Child is Keeping Me From My Grandchildren! Joella Ranaivoson Grandparenting, Being Grandparents, Boundaries & Conflict
September 1, 2021 Being Teachable: Characteristics of Un-teachable Behavior Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Nurturing
August 29, 2021 Being Teachable: Developing a Teachable Spirit Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Spiritual Intimacy, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
July 21, 2021 The Romans 12 Guide to Dealing with Difficult People Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
July 18, 2021 Dealing with a Dysfunctional Family Member Joella Ranaivoson Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
July 11, 2021 How Best to Handle Stress: Take a Lesson from Older Adults Dr. Robert Ritzema Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
June 6, 2021 How to Move Forward After Messing Up Laura Goossens, MSW, LCSW Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
December 23, 2020 Dear Emmanuel, I Feel so Lonely Debi Mitchell, MS, LMFT Dating, Living Single, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
November 11, 2020 How Do I Forgive Lynne Scherschel, MS, LMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 16, 2020 Managing Covid Conversations Rev. Dr. Rob Toornstra Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
July 26, 2020 Conflict Management: A Biblical Approach Rev. Jason Ruis Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Family Holidays
July 8, 2020 Practicing Assertive Communication Jessica Parks, MSW, LCSW Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
February 16, 2020 Moving Past Conflict to Find Unity Debi Mitchell, MS, LMFT Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
February 5, 2020 What Could You Gain from Counseling? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
January 5, 2020 Why Am I Angry? Kathy Krentkowski, MA, LCPC, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy, Grief & Loss
December 18, 2019 Navigating Political Discussions: Preserving Peace Around Your Holiday Table Aneece Alicea, MA, LMHC Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Family Holidays
October 30, 2019 Agreeing to Disagree Kim Sullivan Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 25, 2019 A Biblical Guide to Conflict Resolution Aneece Alicea, MA, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 14, 2019 In-Law Lessons from Moses Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Being Grandparents, Boundaries & Conflict
August 11, 2019 Family Estrangement: How to Find Healing in Brokenness Julie Plagens Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
June 9, 2019 Handling Conflict Constructively Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
May 22, 2019 Responding to a Difficult Daughter-in-Law Dr. Robert Ritzema Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
April 10, 2019 Why is it So Difficult to Draw Boundaries With Parents? Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
March 20, 2019 Reconciling our Conflict with Reconciliation Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
December 7, 2018 Blended Families and Holidays Nadia Swearingen-Friesen Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Blended Families, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict, Family Holidays
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #8 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 6, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #9 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
September 5, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #10 Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Summary Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 30, 2018 Rules for Fair Fighting: Rule #2 Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 19, 2018 Loving the Enemy Rev. Kelly Vander Woude Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
July 2, 2018 Being Grandma, Not the Babysitter Dr. Robert Ritzema Grandparenting, Being Grandparents, Boundaries & Conflict
April 19, 2018 Making the most of living with extended family Donna Southard, MA, LCPC Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
March 12, 2018 Adult Children Caring for Elderly Parents: Building Perspective Dr. Robert Ritzema Parenting, Parenting Adults, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
August 24, 2017 Navigating Difficult Relationships Rev. Deb Koster Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
February 27, 2017 Avoiding Gray Divorce: Marriage Risk After 50 Dr. Robert Ritzema Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
February 16, 2017 Marriage Conflict: Why Do We Fight? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Dating Well, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
February 6, 2017 Fences and In-Laws Rev. Dr. Steven Koster Marriage, Newlyweds, Growing Your Marriage, In-Law Relationships, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
January 12, 2017 A Christian Response to Bad Behavior Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 6, 2016 Crossing Bridges Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Spiritual Intimacy
August 1, 2016 Help! My Family is Driving Me Crazy! Lynne Scherschel, MS, LMFT Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
November 12, 2015 Setting Boundaries with Adult Children Kathy Konrath, LCPC, LMHC Parenting, Parenting Teens, Parenting Adults, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
May 25, 2015 The Top Ten Ways to Create Problems in Your Adult Sibling Relationships Courtney Miner Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
February 23, 2015 Why should I forgive? Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Grandparenting, Being In-Laws, Boundaries & Conflict
October 30, 2014 Finding Spiritual Renewal in the 12 Steps Kathy Konrath, LCPC, LMHC Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Grief & Loss
September 4, 2014 Attitude Adjustments from the Beatitudes Kim Sullivan Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Discipline, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict, Spirituality, Devotions for Couples
April 9, 2014 Forgiving One Another Rev. Leonard Vander Zee Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
April 2, 2014 The Power of Apology Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Communication, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 11, 2010 What Forgiveness Is Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Blended Families, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
October 4, 2010 What Forgiveness is Not Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Growing Your Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Divorce & Remarriage, Parenting, Parenting Kids, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict
December 22, 2006 Fighting Fair Rev. Deb Koster Dating, Challenges & Conflict, Marriage, Conflict & Crisis, Grandparenting, Boundaries & Conflict

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