Many people who live with a mental illness suffer in silence. Why? Because they are afraid of the stigma and being judged. Stigma is feeling ashamed for something that is beyond their control. Because of a lack of education, people think that a mental illness is something that one can “get over”.
There is a common misconception that anxiety and depression is something that we should be able to control. This is not always the case. Often times Christians can be judgmental and make implications that the struggling person has a lack of faith or trust in God.
Yet, in our suffering we should be there to support one another. Throughout the Bible, God mentions that we are not to suffer alone. Galatians 6:2 states to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” But sadly, many who suffer keep silent our of fear of rejection in the church. Sadly, this fear of stigma and judgement of others can isolate those struggling with mental illness and keep them suffering alone.
It is important to remember that you and I are the church. We need to gain and promote new awareness about mental health. Thankfully today, some churches and Christians are starting to take mental health more seriously as a medical condition like any other illness. Numerous churches and leaders are starting to equip pastors and congregations with new information. Churches are talking about grief, depression, and other concerns, starting mental health awareness groups. Through the media, talk radio, and different publications, we are starting to educate and give our congregations and church communities a different perspective.
Despite these positive changes, the stigma behind mental illness remains common in churches and Christian circles. Mental health is not a common topic in the church, and so I encourage you, the church, to start speaking up.
Starting a conversation on mental illness can feel scary and intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are some simple things you can do to help stop the stigma behind mental illness:
When we have not experienced something, it is easy to come to our own understanding and assumptions, which fuel fear, judgment, stigma, and even hatred.
Therapy (counseling) gives insight and empowerment--there is nothing wrong with normalizing therapy. Life’s issues are not always easy, and one does not have to have a mental illness to seek out therapy.
Honesty is the first step to healing--how can we be who God intends us to be without taking an honest look at ourselves first? We have to be honest. Many Christians live in denial about our mental health. It is only through our own journey that we gain wisdom and insight. This experience empowers us to move past the stigma towards personal healing and helping others. Taking ownership of our mental health allows us to gain a confidence to our being. We don’t need to stigmatize ourselves or others who struggle. We need to be able to stick up for all who are suffering so that they do not do so in silence. Remember that it isn’t the illness that defines an individual. God has a purpose for us all.
Rev. Dr. Steven Koster
Rev. Deb Koster
Rev. Dr. Steven Koster