Conflict In Marriage
Essays
Are Marriages 50/50 relationships?
7/11/12I once met a young man who insisted marriage ought to be a 50/50 relationship. He dug into his position, and would not listen to my counter-arguments. Each spouse must contribute half, he said, or the deal is off. He was convinced that any other arrangement would not be fair. Welcome to real marriage--it is not fair. It is a much better arrangement. We at Family Fire do not believe the 50/50 model is compatible…
Is Anger a Sin?
4/11/12
I grew up with the idea that anger was a bad thing. I understood that it was sinful to be angry with God. But the Bible never tells us that anger is bad. As an adult reading the psalms, I came to understand the healthiness…
Why Do We Fight?
6/26/11
Have you ever had a big argument over a small matter? An explosion over a late dinner or another empty toilet-paper roll? We argue about trivial things because they represent bigger, more emotional issues. Too often we argue about the details and never quite get…
Blended Families: Establishing Discipline
5/20/11Blended families come together with unique challenges. The success rate for blended families is very poor with a failure rate of 60-75%. Although much of this is related to unfinished business in previous relationships, some of this is undoubtedly related to the stress of blending…
Devotions
Jonah: A Lesson in Patience
12/12/12 Read Scripture Verse: Jonah 1-4
Reading the story of Jonah, I am struck again by God’s patience. God persists with Jonah through his running, his time in the fish, and even while Jonah sits and waits for the destruction of the city. God could force Jonah’s obedience, but he patiently…
Treasure in Jars of Clay
8/7/12 Read Scripture Verse: 2 Corinthians 4:6-7
The very God who called the universe into being and created order out of nothing places his light, his very presence, within us. How blessed are we that God himself should dwell within us. He does not do this because we are so great and…
Your Most Dangerous Weapon
5/23/11 Read Scripture Verse: James3:9-10
Our tongues are a dangerous weapon. What power there is in something so small! The tongue is a difficult thing to tame. We know the pain of having been called names or labeled in a less that kind way. Those things impact us deeply and…
Resources
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Marriage is a gift
http://glendora.patch.com/articles/your-marriage-is-a-gift Advice for weathering the storms of marriage from the Glendora Patch
"More importantly, if it is so difficult, why bother trying to make marriage work? For starters, it is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. Research consistently shows that children tend to fare better in married, two-parent households. The investment you make in your marriage not only rewards you and your spouse, the dividends spill over to your children as well"
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A Lasting Promise: A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage
Scott Stanley in known for identifying the underlying issues we fight over. It's not the money, or the dishes, it's things like respect and security. Based on clinical research on why we fight, this guide helps us fight for stronger marriages!
