Motherhood and the Vine.
One day, I decided to show my toddler-aged daughter a website based on one of her favorite movies. Like I had anticipated, she had a blast smiling and laughing the whole time. The next day as I was trying to get on the website again, my daughter confidently took over the laptop and started banging on the keys preventing me from logging in and delaying the fun. I said to her “its funny how you think you can do this better than me.” Immediately, those words cut deep into my heart for I knew those words were not just mine but were also God’s words to me about me being her mom.
Although I am a rookie in the league of motherhood, I have learned one foundational lesson - I cannot do this better than God or without Him. It is true that God placed many valuable resources in us to be moms: loving hugs, guidance, an understanding of what our children need, ability to hear our kids in a loud room, and an uncanny intuition to know when our kids are up to trouble, among many others. It is true that we moms can do amazing things, do them well, and many of them all at once. We are moms, after all.
Even though God placed these resources into our hands, our resources are limited without being daily connected to Him, the one that created motherhood. There are days we can not keep it all together, we do not know the answer, and we do not know what to do. If we try to do it without Him, we will be limited. In order to be the mothers God wants us to be, we need to stay connected to Him daily. He is the life giving vine, and we are the branches. If we remain in Him, we will be fruitful. We need Him to give us energy when we have had a sleepless night, wisdom and discernment when we make difficult decisions, and His comfort and encouragement when we are overwhelmed. If we are disconnected from God, not only do we suffer but so do our families. They depend on us to be at our best and our best is with God.
As moms, it may be difficult to spend the time we want with God. So it is best to find the calmest time of the day and give Him our full and undivided attention, which is a different time for everyone. For some, it maybe first thing in the morning before your family wakes. For others, it maybe while waiting in the car pool lane. We can also abide in Him and seek Him throughout the day during the hustle and bustle of our busy lives through prayer. Some days we may feel we have no time to spend with God. But when we take the time out of our busy schedule to connect with Him, our time will be blessed and we will be able to accomplish more than if we try to do it alone.
Step families come with a variety of challenges to weather from the moment they say “I do.” Ron Deal addresses specific challenges and offers biblical insight as well as clinical experience as a marriage and family therapist to help equip couples for the journey ahead. He offers hope and encouragement for helping families navigate establishing working relationships within the new family as well as with the extended family.
http://glendora.patch.com/articles/your-marriage-is-a-gift Advice for weathering the storms of marriage from the Glendora Patch
"More importantly, if it is so difficult, why bother trying to make marriage work? For starters, it is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. Research consistently shows that children tend to fare better in married, two-parent households. The investment you make in your marriage not only rewards you and your spouse, the dividends spill over to your children as well"